Conflict
Repair
Café
at Kehilla Community Synagogue
Whether you’re navigating a conflict or simply want to help others navigate theirs…
Discover possibilities you may never have imagined.
A welcoming, in-person gathering where you can explore real conflicts, learn practical tools, and connect with others who care about creating healthier relationships.
Wondering whether it’s for you? Watch this short conversation between Kehilla Executive Director Samm Azen and facilitator Lisa Rothman:
Café Schedule
2:00 – 3:30 pm the Fourth Sunday of the Month
(except December)
1300 Grand Avenue, Piedmont
— Drop in. No registration required. —
You Do NOT Need…
✓ to bring the person you’re in conflict with
✓ to currently be in conflict
✓ to share personal details if you don’t want to
✓ to attend every gathering
✓ to have a conflict involving a blood relative
This Café is for you if…
- you’re worried about an upcoming holiday gathering
- you keep having the same conflict with someone you care about
- someone you love is in conflict and you’d like to be more helpful
- you simply want to become better at navigating difficult conversations
- you’re curious about another way of approaching conflict, even if you’re not currently in one
What actually happens?
We begin together as a group.
Lisa introduces one practical idea for understanding conflict differently.
Participants can bring a real conflict they’d like help thinking through — or simply listen and learn.
Some gatherings include small group conversations. Others involve demonstrations, role plays or guided reflection.
You are always welcome to participate as much or as little as feels comfortable.
Every gathering is different because the people and the questions are different.
Why people come
People come because they want to…
- prepare for challenging holiday conversations
- reconnect with an adult child
- navigate disagreements with a partner
- support aging parents
- help grandchildren
- better understand chosen family relationships
- become more helpful to friends experiencing conflict
About the approach
Conflict isn’t caused simply because someone won’t change.
Most recurring conflicts persist because people are trying to solve the wrong problem.
At the Café you’ll learn a different way of understanding what’s happening and practical tools you can begin using immediately.
Come by Yourself — or Bring the People Involved
You are welcome to attend on your own.
If the person or people you are in conflict with are willing to come, they are welcome too.
See What It Can Look Like When Multiple Family Members Participate
See What It Can Look Like When One Person Comes for Support
What People Are Saying
“My second session was even more beneficial than my first and my first was amazing in itself! This work is Lisa’s art, and it’s amazing to watch her create these masterpieces for resolution through her work with us all, together.”
Jaime Rosier
Cade Guimaraes
Minnesota
“Lisa is a wizard at conflict resolution. Both with relationships with friends/family but also with internal conflicts. I am blown away every time we work together.”
What Does It Cost?
Your first Conflict Repair Café is free.
If you return, I invite you to contribute an amount that supports both your financial sustainability and mine.
Most people give between $15 and $40.
Please choose an amount that feels meaningful without causing financial strain, stress, or resentment. If the lowest suggested amount is too much, give what works for you.
If that amount is $0, you are still welcome.
Ways to Contribute
- Venmo: @Lisa-Rothman-10
- Zelle: rothman.lisa@gmail.com
- PayPal: paypal.me/LisaRothman
- Wise: wise.com/pay/me/lisar878 (If you live outside the United States, this may be the least expensive way to pay.)
About Lisa
Lisa Rothman is a conflict prevention and repair specialist who helps parents and families transform recurring conflicts into opportunities for understanding, collaboration, and lasting change.
For more than twenty years, she has supported people around the world in navigating difficult conversations, repairing relationships, and finding new ways forward.
Her approach is warm, practical, and deeply respectful of everyone involved.
Frequently Asked Questions
- Do I have to share my conflict?
No. Sharing is always optional.
You are welcome to observe, listen, and reflect on how the work applies to your own family. - What if I don’t want to share personal details about my family?
You choose what to share and what to keep private.
Even a small amount of information is often enough to open up new possibilities. You are also welcome to change names or leave out identifying details. - Is the Café confidential?
Yes. Participants are asked to treat what others share as confidential.
The Café is intended to be a compassionate, respectful, and judgment-free space. - What kinds of conflicts can I bring?
Anything involving family relationships, including conflicts with:- Young children
- Teenagers
- Adult children
- Parents
- Partners
- Siblings
- In-laws
- Extended family members
- What if people judge me?
Every person has family conflict. It is part of being human.
The focus at the Café is on empathy, curiosity, and understanding — not judgment, blame, or evaluation. - What if my conflict is too small?
If it matters to you, it is worth exploring.
Everyday struggles can reveal important patterns and create meaningful opportunities for change. - What if my conflict is too big?
You do not need to know where to begin.
We can start with one small part of the situation and explore what becomes possible from there. - I’ve tried everything already. How will this be different?
You don’t need to come believing it will work.
Think of it as an experiment. Sometimes one new question or perspective is enough to interrupt a pattern that has felt impossible to change. - Can the person I’m in conflict with attend?
Yes. They are welcome if they are willing to participate.
You may also come on your own. Meaningful shifts can begin even when only one person in a family is present. - What if I don’t have the time or energy?
The Café is designed to leave you with more clarity — not a long list of assignments.
One gathering may save you many hours of repeating the same argument or trying strategies that aren’t addressing what is actually happening. - Is this therapy?
The Conflict Repair Café is an educational and coaching experience. It is not psychotherapy, crisis care, or a substitute for mental health treatment. - What if I would prefer private support?
I also offer individual and family sessions.